Last night my attention was drawn to this post which stated that those bloggers that do not have a immaculate clean-up should not be blogging. At first I thought this was a joke, but the tone was clearly very negative. How can you possibly joke around saying "Clean up or die"?
The nail polish community by default is a place of occasional bitchy remarks, that is what happens when you stick loads of women together and make them stare at some tiny little nails. But really has it come to the point where you need to make a coalition against such imperfections and slights?
I remember a few months back there was a similar conversation on a popular forum I am a member of that upset me for the very same reasons. It spoke of "pet peeves" and "car-crash" blogs where people only follow a certain blog in order to ridicule it and make fun of what they deemed to be a 'bad manicure'. What got me so much was there was no attempt to make the conversation more informative and helpful to such bloggers. When I started blogging I didn't know what clean-up was (hell I still paint way to close to my cuticle!) but maybe a helpful comment from one these ladies could really of helped improve these newbie blogs. Why is there such an emphasis on laughing and bitchy about other ladies and no attempt to actually offer constructive criticism and practical help?
For me I blog because I love nail polish, my blog is a journal for me to keep track on my attempts of new nail art and combinations. It is a place to record when I do something new and to celebrate when I do something good, but that doesn't mean I am not going to show you the bad as well. After all who just wants to read success stories? I know that lots of other bloggers blog for the same reason, I don't blog for popularity or for followers (although I love and appreciate you all), I blog for me! So it really bites to the core when you insult our hard work!
I have had quite a few comments in the year I have been blogging telling me my nails are 'ugly' or my paint job is 'really bad'. I must admit that even now when I get them they upset me, even when I know they shouldn't Do I care about the slightly imperfect clean up? No. Should you? No. But it seems many readers do. As I have stated time and time again, I am petite in size and therefore so are my hands, they are tiny and therefore so are my nails. Even if they were longer they would be small. Add to that the fact I play guitar (I know right, I have a life outside of nail polish!) and my nails will always be short. My nails are therefore never going to be perfect, but who's (without the aid of some photo editing software) really are for that matter? My nails are real and the nail art I do is stuff that I actually wear out and it is stuff that you can do yourself at home.
When I follow a blog I look for that 'real' factor I will follow your blog whether you have painted cuticles or not. If you don't like a blog- if you don't like mine- that's fine. I'm not going to hate you for it, but you do not have to pointedly attack those blogs. The article I linked you to above really upset me, it has shattered some of my faith in the nail polish community and I think it will be a long time before I ever regain that.
Plump and Polished has since written this defense post about the original article, stating that it was a joke that got out of hand. I would love to see this blog and some of the others who participated in this campaign write posts educating and helping bloggers on some more tricky aspects of blogging instead of making cruel jokes about them.
I will be adding the Eradicate H8 badge to my sidebar:
Please don't support bulling and if you are concerned about my paint job feel free to un-follow me. To all of you followers that don't care thank you, I am sorry you had to see me go into rant-mode.